What are the types of inter-partner violence/abuse?

Should you find yourself in any of the situations below, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. If it becomes life-threatening, call 112 immediately and ask for help, or 0800 500 333 – the free 24/7 national line.

Physical violence occurs when your partner:

Breaks things when he is angry (throws, smashes, hits objects, etc.)

Pushes, shoves, slaps, bites, hits, strangles, burn you, etc.

Abandons you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place and you have to come back home on your own

Scares you by driving aggressively and/or imprudently

Threatens or hurts you with weapons

Makes you leave the house

Hurts your children

Uses physical force in sexual situations, forces you into sexual intercourse

Locks you inside the house, prevents you to leave by deprivation of liberty

Prevents you from calling the Police or seeking for medical care.

Sexual violence is (when your partner):

Any forceful sexual act, without your consent

Verbal advances, allusions, gestures, touches (repeated and non-reciprocal)

Sees women as objects and has rigid ideas about the roles of each gender

Wants you to always dress provocatively

Insults you, makes sexual jokes

Forces or manipulates you into having sex with him

Prevents you from moving during sex

Wants you to have sex when you are ill, tired or after he hit/hurt you

Hurts you with weapons or other objects during sexual intercourse

Involves other people in your sexual activities against your will

Makes/manipulates you into prostitution, “for the family’s sake”

Ignores your feelings regarding sex

Marital rape

Emotional or psychological violence occurs when your partner:

Follows you

Curses, insults, criticizes, ridicules you

Controls you (the way you dress, who you see/talk to)

Monitors your going out, your calls and the people you see

Does not trust you and is very jealous or possessive

Tries to isolate you from family and/or friends

Humiliates you in front of his friends

Punishes you by withdrawing his affection

Expects you to ask his permission for anything you want to do

Threatens to hurt you, your children, family, pets

Humiliates you in any way, mocks you

Accuses you of cheating

Is jealous towards the people you talk to

Yells at you

Criticizes you

Harasses you

Economic or financial violence occurs when your partner:

Forbids you to work

Excludes you from decisions regarding money

Always tells you he will take care of you and there is no need for you to work

Gives you a limited amount of money every months and gets angry when you need money for justified emergencies

Makes you humiliate yourself to receive a small amount of money

Humiliates you in front of his friends

Holds you responsible for any amount of money you spend, sometimes degenerating into physical violence

Does not allow you to work, to find a job

Controls the couple’s income, refuses to share money with you

Deprives you of basic necessities (food, medicine, etc.)

Forbids you to own/use joint goods, unequally controls joint goods and resources, refuses to support the family, enforces heavy and harmful works detrimental to your health, including on an underage family member, as well as other similar acts.

Sexual violence occurs when your partner:

Isolates you from your family, friends, the community

Forbids you to go to certain places  

Intentionally deprives you of access to information

Constantly controls you

Makes you ask for/get permission before you go out

Spiritual violence occurs when your partner:

Does not allow you to practice your religious beliefs or traditions

Forces you to observe other religions or religious practices

Discredits, mocks, offends your spiritual/religious faith, practices

Uses your faith and religious practices to manipulate, dominate, control you

Forces you to do things which are prohibited in your religion or faith